Prepare Children for a Grown Up Life

Too often a parent minimalizes a son or daughter’s poor choices by saying, “Boys will be boys,” or, “She’s going through a teenage phase.” The parent might even find the incident funny and laugh it off. Childhood is a precious time, but is it really beneficial to only see children through the lens of childhood? Probably not. From the time a baby is born, their days are moving on a timeline toward adulthood. Every experience they go through, all the words they absorb, the examples they see set by adults close to them, over a period of 18 years contributes to who they will be as an adult. It is very important for parents to firmly grab the baton of preparing their children for a grown up life rather than turning them lose to find their own adult self after high school graduation.

Look at parenting as a relay race. The baton you hold will one day be handed off to your children. That fact adds a heightened responsibility to parenting today. Parenting with love means that tough love [not abusive] is part of real love, too. Tough love sets healthy boundaries for curfews, and honors those boundaries. It emphasizes truth over lies and so much more. Love takes time, communication, encouragement, patience and follow through with appropriate consequences when needed.

Sometimes parents forget to make allowance for their child to mess up. Even grown ups can blow it. Keep in mind that messing up is okay, and it’s bound to happen, as long as it becomes a teaching time. Lessons should be learned, and forgiveness given, that don’t allow the messing up to continue over-and-over again. These teaching times create good foundational character traits that contribute to a responsible grown up life.

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 1 Corinthians 13:11 NIV

Sweet Words Increase Learning


OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA There are different styles of learning but life’s lessons are most often taught through the inclusion of words. “A picture is worth a 1,000 words,” is a statement many of us have heard over the years. And it’s true. Whether we learn by hearing, reading, or seeing, it is easier to learn when the words are sweet and not bitter. What enters the ears touches minds and hearts, too. Those who are taught with words of encouragement learn faster. They develop the idea that they can do new things. And, sadly, those who hear harsh criticism learn to doubt they will ever do anything right. Discouragement sets in. Will you challenge yourself to speak “sweet” words to your family? Please remember tender hearts bruise easily when words deliver wounds.

Proverbs 16:1 NKJV The wise in heart will be called prudent. And sweetness of the lips increases learning.